2008 Post Comments

"Playing it Safe on the Web"
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Anonymous said...
Kathy. . .
All good advice for sure. . . another thing is that I don't write anything that I haven't already said to the other person. . . like anyone else who may be at the receiving end of an N, my first instinct is to try and understand the behavior for the sake of the relationship - hence posting on a site like yours, but I am learning that is perhaps naive - they don't care if your motives are pure.It's nuts that after being treated with indifference, etc. that one might still be concerned about the ultimate welfare of the other person. I guess that's why we hurt and they don't and that's what it's all about in the first place.
I'd still like to know if you tell someone that you suspect them of being an N or that they exhibit some of the characteristics - not that it would do any good except provide you with some level of vindication in your own mind.
11:17 AM

Anonymous said...
The narcissist I know put one of those spy programs on his soon-to-be ex-wife’s computer. They cost only about fifty bucks, and they even come in the variety that will secretly e-mail log pages (to a pre-set address) of every key stroke you type, as well as records of every site you visit. Even screen-shots. These things hide among your computer files and are nearly impossible to detect, even with anti-spy software.
He kept up with her activities and her private correspondence with her lawyer during their bitter divorce. Probably still does, the sick twist.
8:15 PM

Fighter said...
Good advice - and narcs attack via the web too. And use the web as a huge hunting ground. Our site is living proof of that.
9:29 PM

rys said...
A member of my Ns enabling posse let it slip that they found something about me on the web. It was nothing, but that means they are looking. I ran a search myself (knowing what 'it' was) and found that this person had to do some substantial digging just to find it. Never underestimate an Ns persistance.
4:35 PM

Anonymous said...
It's surely a blessing and a curse.
When I became suspicious of my N, I used Google and uncovered several of his lies in about fifteen minutes. The crazy things he lied about were so easy to find, it blows my mind to this day!
7:25 AM

jim said...
Just found this site and used the safe stuff to clear my history.
Our marriage therapist believes my wife is a N.
I have read a lot of info and I am fairly sure she is a N.
She blew off the therapist as if he did not have proof and it was a scheme between him and me.
How do I handle a N wife?
We have not slept together for 6 years now because I put my foot down and would not go along with her ways.
9:14 PM

Rachel said...
You can also hide your IP address so the person you're stalking doesn't even know it. I found out the hard way.
10:31 AM

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